How to communicate with your loved ones (and everyone)—GO BEYOND EGO!

Posted: February 8th, 2010 | Author: | Filed under: Whole Life Advice | No Comments »

Where there is communication there is understanding or experience. Really, understanding and experience go hand in hand. Both are expressions of consciousness.

When we communicate we share our understanding and experience. If we are not sharing, we are not communicating.

Where there is misunderstanding there is miscommunication. This happens when we miss the experience of consciousness. This means the mind is disconnected from the Self.

The mind is connected to the Self when it reflects the Wisdom of Consciousness. ‘Reflecting’ in this case means expressing. The mind can express the Wisdom of Consciousness only when it is purified.

The impurities of the mind are its images. The images of the mind are created by the presence of ego in the mind. Ego is the idea that ‘I am the doer,’ the idea ‘I did it,’ and the idea ‘I will do it.’ Ego is an idea in the mind. It occurs there naturally as a result of the association of consciousness (the Self) with unconscious matter in the form of the body (gross matter) and mind (subtle matter).

It is natural to have an ego; it is unnatural to get stuck in it. It is the desire of everyone to be completely at ease with them selves—everyone desires to ‘just be their Self.’ However, it is impossible to just be your self if you are your own enemy. You are your own enemy when you are caught up in your ego. You are you own best friend when you go beyond your own ego.

Some people think the way to conquer ego is to ‘just be.’ But really, the only way to conquer our ego is to be ‘just.’ Being ‘just’ means being fair and honest. Fairness and honesty are expressed through both our thoughts and actions. The more our thoughts and actions are in alignment with our real nature, the more honest we are—the more our mind reflects the light of the soul (Self).

We need to do right actions and think good thoughts but not get caught up in the idea ‘I am the one doing this.’ This does not mean we are not doing the action or thinking the thought. We are certainly the one doing the actions and thinking the thoughts, but we shouldn’t be thinking we are doing it. For example, a woman may be beautiful and may even know she is beautiful, but if she thinks she’s beautiful then she is in her ego.

The way to get out of ego is to do good actions without any thought or expectation of appreciation, recognition, or emotional reward. Of course, it is very easy to get caught up in our ego when we are appreciated, recognized or rewarded. However, facing this challenge (and remaining even-minded) will result in the refinement of the mind, and the mind that is refined (purified) is very close to the divine.

The ‘divine’ is that which is beyond both mind and matter, and THAT is you, me, and everyone. We are all divine, in essence. To experience our Essence (our own divinity), it is essential that we be honest with our selves. It is imperative that we be ‘just’ and act according to our real nature. It is our real nature to go beyond our ego.

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